Bingo! Cutting is another..outlit. There, the people who don't care enough to understand, and are trying to yell or use psychology, can stick that somewhere lovely. Oh wait! Don't! It's a form of selfharm, we should all die before we live because living is self harming! Ahhhhh! *note: Sarcasm in last long line.*
You know, cutting is a terrible way to express pain. And you aren't just hurting yourself for a distraction, you're hurting every single person who actually gives a fuck about you. I'm so sick of my friends either walking up to me and showing me fresh cuts on their wrists. Or me accidentally getting a glimpse of scars that they were trying to hide. Therapy is far better than self harm. And I don't even like therapy, but you know, talking out your issues, going to get help from people in power, is better than harming yourself and torturing your friends and family.
And don't tell me I don't understand. Because I've been to some dark places when it comes to hurting badly emotionally. But I never hurt myself because even in my darkest times I realized that one or two people still cared and I couldn't hurt them by watching me destroy myself.
Do you know how hard it is to not cry when you have a friend walk up to you all broken, eyes on the floor, her arms covered and hear her tell you "I'm sorry... I tried so hard to stop, but I couldn't." Because she's cutting again. Because it's an addiction. Do you know how it feels to bring antibiotic cream and band aids to school because your friend is too ashamed to ask her parents for help when her cuts are infected again?
Or how helpless you feel when you catch a glimpse of another friend's thigh and see a checker board pattern oh so carefully carved in because she can't deal with her emotionally abusive boyfriend any other way. She can't fucking leave him because she loves him. And he's destroying her, and she's helping him. It hurts.
And you're saying I don't care? BULL SHIT. I do care. If I didn't care, I wouldn't be telling them to get away from the causes of their pain. I wouldn't' be taking care of them when they let me. I wouldn't' be tearing my heart apart worrying about them. Okay?
Geez. In the first comment, before you commented, I even said ' the people who don't care enough to understand, and are trying to yell or use psychology '. NOT the friends. I'm talking about the people, well like I said. Anyone else, don't freaken be offended by my comment! It wasn't meant for you!
If they cried and wanted to talk to you, what would you do? Why is cutting destroying yourself? Nope the only cutter I know is myself and the only person who figured out what the cuts are saw them for the second last time. Anyone else glanced at them and looked away. That sucks. A lot. Is there some way that she can leave him? Okay, in my defense I was referring to the people trying to cart others off to psych wards, or telling people they're complete idiots and then walking away from them. I wasn't referring to, after reading what you're doing, You. I'm not saying cutting is the Best way, but it is A way, and Some people can control it. In my experience, over here in my stupid corner, no one fucking cares if you bleed and if you do, you damn well better go to a psychiatrist and get drugs because No One wants to help you. No One would care enough to bring me in bandaids, okay?! That's what I meant. That's it. Those are the people, not you, because they don't care about Why you're doing it, all they see is a cut and then they call you and idiot. I was pretty angry when I wrote that comment, I'm a little sick of people walking away because I Suck at hiding Anything. Yet my anorexic friend, I'm the one who tells her she's pretty. My friend who throws himself off trees, I'm the one who tells him he's strong and he doesn't have to do that. So may you please tell me why they won't call me back and why they hate me so much when I found a razor?
I talk to them, I don't know how to fix it and I would if I could but I try to be there for them. If only so someone will listen.
You don't get it, do you? People aren't careful when they cut, they don't care about themselves that much. I know people who only cut because they can't get up the nerve to kill themselves. So yeah, they are destroying themselves, they could very easily cut too deep and not realize and start bleeding out then not know what to do. Or be too ashamed or embarrassed to get help. How is endangering your life not destructive?
I'm sorry people don't try to help you, but do you ever think they are frightened and don't know how to handle it? Or perhaps they are trying to protect themselves because they aren't strong enough. Unfortunately, people aren't always able to make the good choice, and instead they take the choice best for them. And it'd be nice it they were able to step up, but they don't have to and they could burn themselves out taking care of everyone else. And that's terrible too.
And I personally think people who are cutting or doing anything else destructive to deal with pain need to go to therapy for their problems so they can talk through them and find a new solution other than harming yourself. You don't need to be drugged up in most cases, but you need to talk to a professional that can help you understand how you're feeling and give you mental tools to work through your problems.
And I wish you had a friend who was both willing and capable of helping you, but even if you don't, that doesn't mean you can't find a better way to deal with them. And not everyone who is anorexic needs to be told they're pretty, it's not always about looks as it is about control. You can choose if and when you eat, and to prove to herself that she has some control she chooses not to eat. It's not that in every case, but in some it is and I don't know her exact problem, but I'm just saying an alternative to her doing it to feel pretty. As for your friend throwing himself off trees, that isn't safe, is he doing it for thrill seeking? I don't really understand a whole lot about stuff like this, but both of those are dangerous, and they need to find other ways to face their problems, to make themselves feel in control or pretty or alive or whatever they're trying to feel through the activities.
And as for why they aren't trying to be supportive of you in return, I can't honestly say, but my best guess is they may be relying on you for strength and it scares them when you are going down a destructive path similar to theirs. And that's not fair to you, but that's just my guess.
When I tell someone they need to go to therapy, I'm not saying it in a mean way like I don't care, I'm saying it because I do care, I don't want to see them falling apart and I know I'm not capable of fixing their problems, but maybe a professional could help them find the tools in themselves to deal with their problems. You know what I'm trying to say?
So...almost everyone in the world should be getting professional help because almost everyone in the world goes out and loves Someone, knowing that they're going to be let down, hurt, confused, rejected, or pissed off sometimes. ?
What you said is not related to cutting yourself at all. If your only coping mechanism with emotional pain is self-harm, you should get help. Not if youīre a little sad sometimes. Thereīs a huge difference and acting like cutting yourself would be some super romantic emotional thing is just wrong and sick.
People love to deal with pain in their lives, love helps people recover, right? But you get hurt loving people. Selfharm is a way to recover, even knowing that you're going to get hurt doing it, because it relieves the pain.
But itīs not a natural way. Human instincts are "stay alive, donīt get physically harmed". Those are really really deep in our genetics and brains. If someone is so stressed and sad that they break out of those instincts and hurt themselves, itīs not good and not healthy. Especially because you will regret those nasty scars that donīt go away later. Or you just cut yourself at a bad place, too deep and could possibly die. Self-harm is never an okay way to deal with sadness.
But what's another way to deal with it? Sometimes you need something to physically snap you out of whatever it is you're being hurt with, whether that's physical or not. And please (no disrespect to you) but don't say something involving 'help from other people'. It's not always a matter of not caring about yourself. And besides, if abused someone could hit you or make you bleed at the wrong place/wrong time, and you die. There are places to cut yourself where you probably won't. Granted the what ifs are there, but that's with everything. It doesn't seem any more dangerous. It's something one can actually control. Control themselves to not cut too deep, control where to cut.
If you seriously canīt think of another way of dealing with sadness, you probably have a mental problem. Maybe a borderline personality, maybe youīre having a dissociative identity disorder. Those are serious issues. And the fact youīre defending a horrible mental problem that brings nothing but sadness, pain and death is really sickening. You should hear yourself... gee. Thatīs shocking. Self harm isnīt a safe, normal and controled way of dealing with sadness. No one should have to cut.
Go get abused for a few years and come back and tell me you don't require something physical when you freak. By the way, the mental problem I see here is an inability to try to learn. Hint, I tried to listen to you but you don't know what you're talking about, it's rare I say that. It's caused by that, an in my actual quite alive experience it brings strength, because now I know I can start, stop, continue, deepen, shallow, whenever I want. I control myself. I can't control other people, I can sure as blood control myself. And since I know blood exists. I don't care if it's safe, life isn't safe I mean you always die. I don't care if it's normal, normal people aren't creative or inventive. As for controlled, yeah actually that depends on the person. I think the elusiveness and..flexibility scares you. A point is that you don't have to.
i find it hard to talk to people because i feel like everyone is judging me. and im not wrong. so please dont talk like this, even if talking has helped you it has never helped me it only has made thing worse.
ONE: IF YOU DONT DO IT YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HARD IT IS TO STOP SECOND: ITS HARDER THAN YOU THINK WHEN YOUR MIND IS SET DEPRESSION MODE THREE:WHY DONT YOU JUST KEEP YOUR OPINION TO YOURSELF ITS NOT GOING TO HELP.
SORRY I HAD TO SPEAK TO YOU THIS WAY BUT SOME PEOPLE JUST NEED IT STRAIGHT OUT AND CLEAR.
ONE: I HAVE BEEN CUTTING, CHILLAX. SECOND: I'VE GOT A DEPRESSION, SRSLY. THREE: OH BUT YOU DON'T KEEP YOUR OPINION TO YOURSELF EITHER, SO WHY SHOULD I? You're right, some people do need it, and I think I just gave them what they need.
Can we just not argue and sorry for yelling at chu i was just like in a bad mood seriously.... How about we become friends and not talk about the past? Or we could just not talk about the past and pretend we never met each other? which one do you like? I like the first one
It's been a while since I saw this. But, I've happened upon it, once again. ...I forgot how deep this was. How deep you are. Let me refresh our friendship. With a fond, Fuck you. And everything you stand for
I don't hide my cuts. I go around school with short sleeves. People don't say anything and I don't have any friends there anyway.
I hate how people will judge you poorly if you cut. I also hate how people seem to have such happy lives and they go around singing about it. "LADEEDA, I have teh best frands in the world and my family totally supports me and I'm beautiful and perfect and amazing life is so good yayyy <33" Oh, do shut up.
I switched to smoking because it's more socially acceptable... which makes absolutely no sense. Smoking is worse! I don't have the pain threshold to kill myself by cutting but smoking is something I could easily die from. Nice one, society -_-